Hi jts,

You have a lot of first hand experience dealing with cancer. Your SO does as well to a lesser degree. Getting hit with a cancer diagnosis throws everyone into a spin. What helps get both feet planted is empowering oneself with knowledge and education about the road ahead.

Some take a passive role, some bury their heads, some take on the challenge head first. Unfortunately your role is a support and caretaker role.

Encourage SO to join here, learn as much himself, advocate for himself and lean on you when support is needed. I am sure most be people feel better and do better the more educated they are about the situation they find themselves in. Best of luck. Don