Jts,

Welcome and sorry to hear about your SO's diagnosis. It sounds as though you are on top of things and you've certainly come to a forum where you will find an incredible amount of support.

I had the same concerns as your SO regarding wait time as we (my mom) waited about five weeks before she underwent surgery. I never rule out second opinions, so we actually sought out five opinions over a period of a few weeks - and all of the docs we met with told us that waiting several weeks wouldn't be detrimental.

My thought was that every second is critical, but our docs were confident that it would be okay to wait a few weeks. I still haven't wrapped my brain around waiting for treatment, and I doubt that I ever will, but so far the docs we've encountered have been pretty accurate when it comes to their opinions.

As Tony pointed out, a surgeon is probably going to recommend surgery. That rings true in my most recent experience. Our surgeon suggested surgery and our chemo doc recommend chemo prior to surgery. A treatment decision was made after the docs (surgeon, chemo specialist and radiation doc) met collectively to discuss and debate my mom's overall situation.

I wish you both the absolute best, and please make sure to take care of yourself too.

Regards,
Dave