I'm very sorry to hear Gordon. Some doctors, hospitals willl drop you like a dime , so don't feel bad looking elsewhere. As far as a 2nd opinion, I just called who I wanted to see, and made an appointment, had most of my records anyway. I have Medicare now, but several years ago, Aetna through my employer, but I didn't need approval to go to see a specialist or get other opinions then or now. I'm not sure of your insurance, how it works, but I would think you're in a position for many opinions?

Maybe come to NYC, stay at Hope Lodge, it's free, and have consultstions with doctors here. NYC has the most top doctors, and hospitals than anywhere else in the world,and can list them, doctors too, especially for head and neck cancer or go to U.S. Buisness Reports Best Hospitals, which lists some.

I hope this is of some help.