Hi there... As others have said the word cancer in and of itself has the ability to terrify and paralyze, and it's so hard not to focus on the fear.

However, Cancer doesn't define you and you shouldn't let it. The best way to deal with it is give it it's due, satisfy yourself that you have done the best and all that you can to try and prevent it from coming back, (eat healthfully, go for your treatments, see the top drs at the best facilities, and try and live a healthful life - give up smoking - if you do smoke - etc.. and try to get some 'me' time - exercise, meditate, and enjoy the people around you.) Get to know what is normal in your recovery and don't wait if you have any concerns. Once you have done all of this then you have to say - the rest is up to fate, and don't dwell.

Enjoy the time you have now, because all any of us have is now. Cancer dx , or no. Many people who've never had cancer die daily. So live your life to the fullest. hugs and welcome. And I am sure there is someone here with a salivary gland cancer dx.