Hello Donna; I envy your wisdom in joining this group at the outset of your diagnosis and treatment. You will find wise counsel and great support, guaranteed! This is the place for every question as you are talking to folks who have pretty much experienced it all.
As you have heard, it is a tough journey ahead, but it is doable...and complaining is just fine- no one should have to "suffer in silence". That's why there is such a forum as this where we can help each other bear the load.
May you experience a special close time with your dear family as you begin this challenge, and may the fair winds of victory blow your way when all is done.
All the best,
Fran