I just wanted to update everyone who was so helpful here. I filled out the form to request a second opinion from Dana Farber and heard from them yesterday that they would at least be able to get me in for a consultation with a radiation oncologist there, hopefully a dentist, and possibly their entire head and neck team about whether I need radiation and issues regarding radiation of two different sites (breast and oral) at once.

The new patient coordinator from Farber was very helpful in explaining what I needed to get sent and I was able to get most of it sent yesterday after I spoke to him, although I did have to drive to the two surgeons offices to sign forms releasing the information. The only thing I think i have left to get are the images, which he said I could carry with me when I come.

It's amazing the charge that gave me--finding out I would get the second opinion from there and getting everything sent off. I guess it's that thing abut having so much be incontrollable right now but here is an important thing I *can* control.

I still have my moments of being terrified of the radiation, if I have to have it. And then I have moments, thanks to this site, and all of you who answered my initla post here, of thinking that it will be hell but a hell I know I can get through.