Don't feel bad, most feel the same way about their doctors not spending enough time with them, or not getting a good enough explanation. You can take notes, but that can disrupt the continuity of the conversation. I think it's better to write down the answers to your wriiten questions, as soon as you leave the office. The same with recording the physician, with permission. He or she may answer guardingly, and may not get an honest answer for lack of better words, and may not trust you, I wouldn't. You could bring another person who can take notes instead.

The yard work may be a bit much. Bedsides being strenuous, there is the allergies, and even risk of infection from the various organisms, with a compromised immune system, such as cancer, so wear gloves, face mask when doing.

They don't say this is a roller coaster ride for nothing. You will have ups and downs, and set backs. I'm 3.8 years from diagnosis, and have several issues, well, maybe more than several, but can't complain.