Hello Barbara, I am sorry you have had to join us. You will find amazing support and advice here. Yes, it sure is quite a shock to find yourself on this journey. It is a hell of a roller coaster . Take it 1 day at a time and always be positive and encouraging. You both will get through this
Try and encourage Richard to keep swallowing. It is ok to use the PEG for most of his nutrition if you have to, but he must swallow a little each day. This is too keep those muscles working and so that after this is all over he can return to eating normally.
I just want to tell you both that life will return to a " normal " for you both eventually - with a little bit of time. There is plenty of quality living still to do and to be had for you both.
Come here often, either for advice or to vent. We will help you through this.
Take care,
Tammy.

Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!