Nay, thanks for updating us on your mothers condition! Its a long road when someone goes thru a mandibulectomy. Its something that is debilitating. Im so sorry that you dont have more help there.

Does your mother belong to a church? I would reach out to anyone who offered to help and see if they would mind staying with her maybe 2 days a week while you are in school and working. If you could get 3 people to help then it will be much easier on you. Can your other relatives come help you? Ask about a visiting nurse and a home health aid to come help you at home. Try to prolong the hospital stay since you are not equipped to care for her at home, even if they keep her a couple more days it would help.

I know it seems overwhelming right now but in a month your mother will be doing much better. It really will become much easier as time goes by.

Good luck!!!

Christine
SCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44
2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07
-65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr
Clear PET 1/08
4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I
surg 4/16/08 clr marg
215 HBO dives
3/09 teeth out, trismus
7/2/09 recur, Stg IV
8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy
3wks medicly inducd coma
2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit
PICC line IV antibx 8 mo
10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg
OC 3x in 3 years
very happy to be alive smile