Thanks everyone for your kind words. BTW, today he told me his oncologist is more worried about the tumor in his throat. That kind of scares me because I've read some posts on this forum about pain and how large they can get. He can not have any more radiation, not even for palliative purposes as he has had the maximum. And he's already had 2 bilateral neck dissections and TORS and laryngectomy so I'm very frightened about the news he gave me today...