Dee, I am the same way, Dan says he is cancer free, my answer is usually:
"As of his last Dr appt he was cancer free"
I NEVER say otherwise because I am so darn superstitious.
I was just really curious what people ask and say etc.
Dan is just now aware of people giving him a double take but never ever ask questions.
He had a radical dissection. His Mom always says his face and neck are puffy on his left side. He always has to remind her that he has no left side of the neck, so of course the other side looks bigger.