Dear FlyFree,
Yes, there really IS life after tongue surgery-although, I won't lie to you, dealing with not being able to be clearly understood (or being ignored altogether) is probably the hardest thing I've had to suffer throughout this whole toboggan-ride. (not to mention drooling all over myself!!!):-p... Of course, this is just MY experience, of MY feelings being on MY sleeve ;-) and of course, your experience will be different.
I've found over and again that my PERCEPTION and feelings ABOUT what happens is generally as (if not more) important than what actually DOES happen. I'm trying to keep my mind on what I CAN change and do, and let the rest take care of itself. Maybe a bit Pollyanna-ish, but it's worked this far!
BTW, your questions are GREAT! Don't forget to write 'em down; and for your 5,003 other questions that inevitably pop up as you're driving home, come back to this site as often as need be, do searches, start new topics, and make some terrific new friends. You are truly welcome here and you'll find a wealth of info and experience.
Prayin' for you!
Gordon