Hi,
What you are doing in regards to treatment (none) is acceptable considering the circumstances but only if you make absolutely sure he is out of pain. You need to be at a cancer center, or have a hospice service come into your/his home. Please say you are doing that. I know you love and want the best for your grandfather, but he does not have and should not have to endure pain. Reread Christine's post.
Anne

SCC tongue 9/2010, excised w/clear margins:8 X 4 mm, 1 mm deep
Neck Met, 10/2010, 1 cm lymph node; 12/21/'10: Neck Diss 30 nodes, 29 clear, micro ECE node, part tongue gloss, no residual scc
IMRT & 6 cisplatin 1/20/11-2/28/11 at MDA
GIST tumor sarcoma, removed 9/2011, no chemo needed
Clear on both counts as of Fall, 2021