Hello,
I have never been on a forum before in my life, but i need to talk to contact someone to help me through the way I am feeling right now. I have not been diagnosed, but for the last 2 nights I can not stop crying with what I have read on the net.
Family and friends think I am stupid in thinking that I might have cancer, but I dont think I am going mad.
Any help will be much appreciated.
I will start from the beginning.
In March 2011 I got a "sore" on my gum where a missing tooth is,I have a denture with several teeth on.
After a few weeks it did not seem to go away, so as I was due a dental checkup I went to my Dentist for my yearly check up and to see if I needed antibiotics for the "sore".
The dentist told me that the small red abrasion was not an infection, but caused by my palatte. He told me to swill my mouth with salt water and adjusted my palatte. He said it could take around 6 weeks to heal, but go back if it did not clear up.
6 weeks later it was still there. So off to the dentist I go.
He said the same thing. Denture problem, he adjusted it again.
another 3 weeks its still there, its not really sore, but hey its there. So I go to the dentist. Same thing again, this time he said come back in 2 weeks. 2 weeks later i go he said it was a "gum tag" caused by my denture and that he would have to remove it. He assured me it was nothing to worry about/and or sinister.2 weeks later I go expecting him to remove it, but he said no need to, as it looks like its starting to clear. But come back in 2 weeks. I am next due to go back a week on tuesday.
I hope you get the picture.
I never knew that a long term small red spot/sore could be oral cancer. If I did I would of done more.
Part 2.
The last month I have had pain in my neck, ear throat area. My neck feels stiff, its not a sharp pain, but more of dull ache.
I have been meaning to go the doctors with it but i felt silly going with a stiff head/neck.
So on Friday night I look on the net for answers to cure a stiff neck, etc.
Head and neck cancer symptoms came up.
I read that earache, neck pain, red spot/sore in mouth are red flag symptoms.
Oral cancer could be a ulcer or sore that does not heal after 3 weeks. I was never aware of this.I am freaked out that this sore is cancer and I think now its spread to my neck. Have I been misdiagonosed by my dentist? Surely he should be aware of oral cancer. I thought I had done right in going but now i am so worried. I am going to the doctors tomorrow.
But I swear now that i can feel this dull ache down my shoulder blade. Can this thing attack so quick? I read the sooner its diagnosed the better survival rate. But its a "quiet" cancer not producing pain un til its advanced.
As you can imagine I am so scared right now,I am a female and have just turned 40, I have been with my partner for 12 years, and married last year.We Have just recently decided to try for a baby. I have always worked in factory environemts, and shift work, I have never smoked, but do drink, I do like the sun, not that we get much in the north east of england.
Any words of encouragement would be so kind.

And any help with information with all the brave people
who have gone through this.

Carolinex