Hey John: I'm relatively new to this forum also. One thing the folks here have impressed on me is to focus on what happens next and not worry so much about years in the future. They will take care of themselves. Also, we all have a 100% chance of living or dying. Either way, we will do one or the other. Think of the 100% living side of the world and that is where you will spend your time and be happier for it. If you have family financial worries, just make sure you have a will drawn up and leave everything to your reason for living. Also, don't forget that living will so she can direct the surgeons if necessary. But these are immediate concerns and should be what you concentrate on, not on 5 - 10 years from now.

Remember, your positive attitude has a big effect on the outcome of your treatment as well as how you effect the well being of your family. You have to keep them on the positive side, also, and that's easier to do if you think you'll live forever, so think about forever and not a finite limit that may not apply to you at all. Good luck with your surgery. Hope it turns out OK. Consider asking about rad/chemo post surgery as it can assist a lot in stopping a recurrance. Regards, Kirk Georgia