Definitely get to someone else for a second opinon. I was Stage IV and I am still here. I do have a feeding tube and that is probably what he should get first. But it can be beat with people like you at his side. This is a great place to get started. Good luck!
Robin

10/10 IV OSCC metastatic to lymph nodes. 10/10 Peg,Port,Trech. due to rad scarring cannot swallow. 9/12 Pet clean. SCC back again 11/12. Tumor attached to jugular, Rad DX left side of neck 11/19/12. No Chemo or Rads. MRI on 1/11/13 for chronic pain w/pet scan 2/15/13.