I had a long battle with my cancer and once i had my chemo and rad, I was sleeping in a recliner in the family room...Once everything was done and I got my ng tube out, I started sleeping in our room again...when I felt ready I asked my husband if we were ever going to have sex again....he chuckled and said yes, it wasn't soon after but once he felt that I was getting better he felt ready also...It will come back with time, you have to realize that as hard as this is for you it is hard for your spouse also and they are afraid too...