Thanks for responding - I have used your guidelines for nutrition and water and have been able to mostly keep up with those amounts - and actually usually about 60 oz of water. The ER thought there might be some prostate issues because of his age - he was in so much pain, and they were able to get about 2000 cc of urine so no wonder he was in pain! He came home with the foley, and so now we have a new tube to deal with and need to consult yet another Dr - which is okay as long as we are making progress.
Sleep seems to be the norm - and he falls asleep even right after his naps. I know that he needs the sleep, but I am amazed at how much he sleeps.
We seem to have the diarrhea issue currently under control - and I pray that will continue. Many people have told us that almost all patients new to tube feeding get diarrhea, so I guess it's just another facet of this fight we are in.
Thank you all for your kind thoughts - I'll keep in touch.