jj, your message brings my memory back to the day when I received the heartbreaking news and had to break it to my two sons who were at that time 12 and 16. They had no idea what cancer was but knew that it could be fatal. I tried to remain very calm in front of them and repeatedly emphasised these 3 words: Life as usual. They took it very well and I am glad that their life hasn't been adversely affected by my illness. It is my husband whose daily work has been seriously interrupted. He had to quit from important meetings because he opted to accompany me to my treatment although I told him I could be on my own. When treatment was over, he squeezed time to return home during office hours fearing that I felt too bored without him around.He said he couldn't do anything to reduce my pain, but he wanted to assure me that he would always be available whenever I needed him.I owe him a lot and without his support and care, I don't think I could have survived this battle.I don't have a particularly strong character and I am sure if I can make through all hardships, so can you and others on this forum.

Karen stage 4 tonsil cancer diagnosed in 9/01.