I'm sorry if my post has left you uneasy, I only wish to give you as candid a perspective as I might. Remember that I may be way off base, as I do not have all the facts, and am not speaking as a doctor, only a well-informed person who has been through this. Cancer is indeed a scary thing... in spite of his behaviors let's hope that this all turns out to be something else.

Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.