Hi Laura, I am so grateful that I happened upon this forum, and you will be too. Like your husband, my brother, who finished radiation treatment 3 weeks and 2 days ago, didn't/doesn't want to know about any of it, just wants to get on with being well.

Like you, he and his wife have young children (they have four from 3 to 13yo), and his wife has her hands full just keeping things normal for the kids. Often it is the caregiver who is on the forum, rather than the patient. Your husband may like to eventually read responses to questions you ask of the forum, rather than post himself.

As Cheryl, says get him to fatten up as much as possible. Simon went from being a very fit, gym-going 47yo of 82 kilos, to looking like our dad at 70, because of the 15kgs weightloss!!

You must be very worried, but this disease can be beaten, and having good support is very important - having a medical person in the family is a bonus !! I got your PM and I have replied. I'll be thinking of you.
Linda

Brother 49yo DX 22/6/11 Tonsil SCC HPV+ Stage IV T4N1(?)M0. Carbo/docetaxel (Taxotere)19/7, 11/8 (with E-tux), 1/9; E-tux 11/8, 25/8, 15/9, 30/9, 14/10, 28/10; IMRT X 35 (70gy tumour;63gy nodes;56gy gen area) 19/9-4/11/11. Clear PET scan 1/2/12. 1 and 2 year post treatment checks good.