Cathy, give the COH people a shot at helping you, at least for a second opinion. In my case, which is very different from yours, the doctors told me I would have no problem recovering from surgery, but I would live with the effects of radiation forever.

I'm not saying this to scare you about radiation. It may be the very best way to go for your situation. I'm suggesting that second, and third opinions are worth every bit of effort they take.