I have just signed onto the board, and I hope I am doing this right. I have looked on this web site lots of times, read it, and it has helped me very much. I have not got cancer myself, but in October 2002 my brother who is 38 was diagnosed. He was always visiting the dentist with a mouth problem, and was told he had gingivitis. He then insisted on a biopsy and it came back as cancer. By now it had spread to his neck and behind his nose. He had a 10 hour operation to remove his teeth, gums, roof of mouth, and lymph gland in neck but the tumour behind the nose is inoperable, so he is now having radiotherapy. He has had 3 lots of chemo. He is feeling sick and is losing loads of weight and he may now have to go into hospitail to have a tube fitted. My brother does not ask any questions he just plods along with it all, this is why i dont know what stage he has or any medical words. All I know is I am so worrid about him, and I cry all the time. Reading your messages has really helped. Thank you.