Hi Danny - I'm so glad you found this site. It's the best place to be for the most accurate and recent information as well as some truly compassionate help from people who have had similar experiences. Until someone else gets to you whose experience more closely resembles Keven's, maybe you could check out the following links to the best hospitals for Cancer centers: (It is always good to get 2nd and even 3rd opinions when a decision has to be made.)
http://www.oralcancerfoundation.org/resources/cancer_centers.htm
http://health.usnews.com/health/best-hospitals/cancer-hospital-rankings/
If you check out the OCF main page (see top left Oral Cancer Foundation link) and click on "Diagnosis" or any other links, it could help you to think of questions you need to ask of the doctors. It's good that Keven has you to help him through this. Check back here often and let us know what is happening.