Sandy, on here you really do have to keep your Davids like the proverbial ducks in a row.

I don't have an answer in re the relationship of tumor size and type to node mets. Maybe someone more knowledgeable can chime in. My RO did tell me - and I believe I discussed this in a thread some months back - that these occult tumors tend to burn themselves out after they've metastasized. My terminology clearly isn't precise on this, which sparked the discussion back then. Someday I'll get her to elaborate further and will comment then.

I too had the mets only to one side. But in my case surgery was recommended. Since the spread was only to my submandibular nodes I then had bi-lateral radiation from about my jawline to my collarbone.

Think I'll respond more fully in a PM so the thread does indeed stay on track!