So, D2, you have no warden...uh, I mean...no wife? I suppose that proves you are no idiot! See, you noticed something and within days (not weeks or months) you saw your doctor. Wow! My theory is that married men would rather wait for the lump to resolve and hope they can avoid telling the wife about it. We wives lean toward the dramatic. So, gnashing of teeth and rending of cloth are behaviors the hubby can bank on--and wishes to sidestep if at all possible. JMHO.

I've been fired a couple of times for being an overcaregiver. I suppose it's a gender-specific job related problem.

I wonder if the tumor is occult and too small to find, does it matter much regarding mets to nodes? Do larger, identifiable tumors cast off more cells? J's DX said he had bilateral mets (the RO assumed so from the PET--no biopsy of the right side.) And, TX was planned based on the TxN2c standard of care. Therefore, no neck dissection. But he was radiated from tip of nose to spine and down to collar bone since the tumor was occult. David2, was that your experience with rads? (I hope I didn't just hi-jack the post!)

Thanks,

Sandy