22! You are right, those months were hard-fought and hard-won. It is important not to short change yourselves and what you two have accomplished.

It really doesn't matter what lies in the future...the "hit-by-a-bus-tomorrow" scenario has been done here on the forum before and so have recurrences. You (collective not personal) can spend your life worrying about something happening and it will either happen or it won't. But, in either case you will have wasted precious time worrying when you could have been living! Wendy, you are a wise woman to try to put it aside and live! The icing on the "don't worry" cake is the "be happy" part! You have a great recipe for a lovely life!

We're managing. I'm still in my Happy Place. It's lovely here, but I know that it will be back to reality soon...vacations can't last forever. There's a scan looming on the horizon and it will chart our course for the future. Nothing is scheduled yet. I'll let you know what happens. Thank you for thinking of us.

Yep, people outside OC don't get it. Not having been through the whole thing, I'm not as helpful as I would like to be to you and other friends. But, I do know that when a friend yelled at me for not being more positive, I had my first taste of WTF stew. Lots of people don't realize it is a process of hearing, comprehending, mourning, and then acting on news...and it happens over an over and over as new things crop up. There's the helplessness, the worry, the frustration and the mixed bag of things caregivers go through. Who can be hit by this diagnosis and be positive at first pass? It takes some adjusting and some bouncing back for both the patient and the caregiver. And, it helps to have great support to get there. Thank you, my beautiful friend, for being kind, supportive and for understanding even the small amount that J and I have been through.

I'm so glad that you get to close an unpleasant chapter. Here's to being happy!

Love,

Sandy
xoxox