Hi - well I understand the nervous and scared part - this disease is terrifying - your husband has been through alot too - I just finished radiation and chemo 2 weeks ago and am still a mess - somewhat - he probably does need counselling to deal with everything he has gone through - and likely the fear of recurrence - he may also have fears about work, family etc.... it helps to have someone to talk to. Plus his cancer was very involved by the sounds of it. Not sure if he had surgery prior to rads and chemo but if he did that's even harder in some ways. It's a harder physical recovery - for sure.

Normal is another thing - I think - mind and body go hand and hand - since you say he's scared and feeling down - etc... That can very much have an impact on his physical state - and let me tell you some of the side effects of the chemo and rads and surgery - can be very frustrating - this can also get you down. They say it's one month recovery for every week of radiation. But that's physical recovery and can be hampered by a persons mental state - plus what christine says is true - everyone heals at their own rate. He will eventually find his normal but I do suggest maybe you both join a wellness group, or get counseling.

Vomiting - did actual skin come out? Your mouth naturally sloughs off dead skin to begin with - But the blood would be unusual - if you vomit hard enough it's possible to irritate your throat etc and possibly vomit blood it's the amount that's important if there's a lot I would have him talk to his dr.... Looking at your signature - I can't tell if he had his lymph nodes removed - in march - or an MRI in March - if he had surgery in march then that would make sense since he has stitches still inside his throat - they could bleed - if pulled. I do say if it happens again you should check with your dr.

Also certain pain drugs effect people differently - hydromorphone - or any other pain med - may be what is making him feel down. They do have side effects - is he still in a lot of pain? A friends husband gets totally boggled mentally when given any pain med, and my mom was super sensitive to them to - she went from being chatty and bright - to almost comatose in less than 24 hours when they changed her pain meds while she was in the hospital - It really depends on the person.

I wish I could help you more - best of luck. - hopefully your hubby will turn a corner soon. Take care!