Rebel, I wanted to clarify something I agree you have to get several opinions. You dont ever settle for drastic surgery unless its clear in your mind this is what is best for you.
This is what was best for ME. UW Madison is rated as one of the best Hospitals & CCC in the country.
If you do decide that surgery is your route, I was just recommending UW Madison. Hang in there

SCC 4/2006 Bot/Side Tongue T3N2M0 surgery/flap/ neck dissection. 30 IMRT Cisplatin/Erbitux. 5 year + survivor