Kroth, welcome to OCF. I am so sorry to read of your brother in laws ongoing illnesses. I really hate reading such sad stories of people who just cant seem to get a break. Poor guy! He is so young. He doesnt even get a chance to get well and it keeps coming back. Oral cancer is very fast moving, your brother in law is proof of how quickly it can grow. You are wonderful to take care of him, thats what families are for. Sadly not everyone has good people like yourself as relatives to help them when they it.

This may be a silly question and I apologize in advance. Have you considered taking him to a large cancer center for a second opinion? From your post I understand that his health has declined and there are so few options for an oral cancer patient. If it was me as the patient, I would want that done for me. Thats why I mentioned it. Again, Im sorry if this suggestion is ridiculous.

Another avenue to go for help is hospice. From what I have heard, they will make sure he is comfortable and help you to help him. Ive heard so many glowing reports attesting to how compassionate the hospice people are.

Hope today is an ok day for you. Take it one day at a time. I will add your family to my prayers.