Thank you bethers0808, I am just starting to get the redness under my neck. It's looking pretty angry right now. I will start doing what you say about the towel and aquaphor. I have been putting aquaphor on my neck but not the towel. I'm so sorry about your cancer, your too damn young!! You've been through so much and I love, love, love your positive attitude. Your an inspiration. I have consulted a lawyer. I am so pissed at those doctors for brushing me off. I have to give him some more info then we'll see if I have a case. Luckily even though I have a very aggressive cancer it stayed small and didn't spread. The question he wants answered is if they caught it in 07 can we definitively say it would be low grade. My pain is being managed so far with the morphine and magic mouthwash. I was also lucky in that my cancer was in the floor of my mouth, although my surgery was an extensive and complex surgery, yours sounds much more complex than mine. I wish you so much happiness in your life and Merry Christmas to you and your family. Shelly