well he had a "toothache" in september of last year.. then the pain started going up the left side of his neck, he was treated for sinus infection and sent home with antibiotics.. it wasn't until january when the pain got so bad he went back in and they sent him to an ENT.. it is a horrible thing to watch.. i guess you just adjust to the new "normal".. im grateful for each and everyday he is here.. he is fighting so hard.. as im sure your sister is..42 is young..