KM

I did not mean to imply in any way that you would not be 100% supportive of your sister. I was just speaking from my experience and that of my caregiver wife, that specific offers such as "we are coming over to rake the leaves " or sending a box of DVDs to watch could be gratefully accepted with no effort on our part. We were both just too worried and too tired to be able to articulate exactly what would have been helpful. Sorry if it read otherwise.
You sound like a wonderful brother. Certainly taking the initiative to join OCF to be able to help and support Kim is proof positive that you are already proactive. Finally, my wife liked Gail Sheehy's newest book on Caregivers. Here's a link to her website so you can see if it might also be of interest to you. We liked the Labyrinth metaphor also in the video
Caregiver Advocate - Gail Sheehy
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