Janice,
Welcome to OCF and I�m truly sorry you needed such a place.  I would highly recommend getting a 2nd or even a 3rd opinion.  As others have pointed out, there are many excellent hospitals in the Northeast US � Johns Hopkins is #1 in Ear, Nose & Throat cancer and HUP (Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania) is #7. Sloan in NYC and Fox Chase are also highly rated.  Here�s a link to the rankings: 
http://health.usnews.com/best-hospitals/rankings/cancerI was treated at Hopkins this year for a recurrence and would highly recommend going there for a 2nd opinion.  I have also been to HUP and Fox Chase for opinions.  I sent you a PM with more details.