Rahel

Looking forward to it. BTW, there was absolutely nothing offensive about your post, my caution was proactive. Turns out our female caregivers are fiercely protective of their mates (Step back Sara Palin, these are the real Mama Grizzlies) so any innuendo that a TX choice means they weren't "tough" triggers passionate responses. I thrive on conflict but the very fact that you even asked what was appropriate rather than just doing it indicates a greater sensitivity (although I do feel bad later and have to apologize when I give into my Alpha Male macho mode.)