Hi, I am new on here and have a boyfiend with tongue cancer stage 3, surgery to remove majority of tongue with replacement flap, 1 week trache, 3 week hospital stay, now in 4th week of 6 weeks radio and chemo, still just managing to eat and drink, flap still enlarged and becoming hard to understand. I am still working full time and now beginning to find it harder to cope with everything and not ever being able to switch off. I don't look forward to going home to the eating arguement (he is determined not to go back on peg but it hurts to eat) but then feel guilty as it is not me suffering. Nice to find others struggle too, peolpe keep telling me how strong I am but that is only on the outside!