Pam

Having a feeding tube does not mean the end of [quote]We were always very social people enjoying being with friends, dining and partying. [/quote]. First, you not only can but should continue as you always have. As a patient I don't want to feel that my cancer has now circumscribed my caregiver's life -[even though of course it does]. Second, your husband can consider working up to syringe feedings - not the ones shown on the Internet where patients hold up a syringe and let the goop drip down- but where you insert the syringe into the nutrient or Wine (my preference at parties, Beer fizzes although it's doable with patience) and push it down the feeding tube. [Flash: no contact with oral tissues and every doctor I've told says since it goes directly into the stomach it's just fine]
Even before I could manage jevity down the tube, wine worked.
Just last month my wife and I went to my combo 40th 8th grade/ 45th High School reunion pool party and we had a wonderful time, just like the other times even though I brought my cans of jevity and syringe. BTW, I've failed my Modified Barium Swallow test Four times even after 9 months of swallowing therapy including three months of VitaStim electrical stimulation . Yet, I'm doing fine and you and your husband can also. It will not be easy but we are not alone. Others before us did this also.
Charm