Liz

I responded to your Erbitux post but wanted to say that your husband's being "very depressed and very bitter" sounds pretty normal to me. You are under a lot of stress and regrets but on the issue of counseling, not everyone responds very well even if they go. Not that it may not help your husband - you know him, and how he's acting. Many men are as resistant to seeking counseling as they are to asking directions. Unfortunately, you can not compel someone to attend counseling (outside of the psychiatric & criminal justice systems).
There is a wonderful network of caregivers here at OCF . As a patient, I can't fully understand what you are going through but they can
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