It is tough to deal with and sorry you are going thru it. No easy answers....she's 96 and breaking a hip is a big deal at that age...then there's the bed dependence which effects...well, you know all this. Hang in there. It's a tough job and you're a good person to take this on.

CG to H with SCC BOT T4N2cM0 dx 12/19/08, teeth removed pre-tx; Erbitux & RT-done 3/12/09, PEG 2/9/09-7/14/09; ND 6/16. Pet 6/12-no mets except lymph node in neck removed on 6/16. Chyle leak,2nd surg to repair. Dilate esophagus 4/15/10. Clear PET 12/17/10