Hi granianni,

Sorry you are here. My mom is 88 and also loves to sing. I know from what I have learned on these forums that oral cancer can be a horrific end of life scenario. You sound like a tough person, like my mom. I would not want to see her endure her final days dying from OC.

As Brian said, "An obturator is easy to live with." I believe we have a couple of people on these boards who have obturators and still are active singers. Some of the veteran posters here might be able to give you more information (help me out here, guys).

You said, "Am I wiser to let it eat me or try and eat it?"

Don't TRY and eat it: EAT IT!!!

Best of thoughts to you.