An obturator is easy to live with. It is like an upper denture that fits in your palate. I simply seals off the mouth from anything above it. No one knows that you have it, and you take it out and brush it like a denture as well.

Oral cancer is not a disease that you want to have run its course. Those that are lucky have a quick met to the brain, others it is slow, painful, difficult process. Don't even have this thought. This is not the choice that you want to make.

You likely have lots of good miles left on the odometer, people who you care about, and who care about you, who would love to have you around for sometime to come. If the outcome of all this is you have to have an obturator after a surgery, this is a better outcome than many have.