Hi Jordan's Mom - just wanted to say that although my cancer was not as advanced as your daughter's, after researching best places for treatment I decided on MD Anderson - based on it's top reputation for treating oral cancer, plus it was simply easier for me to get to than Sloan Kettering, or Johns Hopkins, and I have family in Houston. I have never regretted my decision for one single minute, even though traveling to get treatment presents challenges. I think all of the surgeons there are top-rated, Jeffrey Meyers did my surgery but I have also heard great things about Ann Gillenwater - take a look at the website, if you haven't already - it shows a detailed bio of each MD and their area of interest and specialty. When I did my self-referral I was asked if there was a specific surgeon I wanted to see. I am currently being seen by one of the medical oncologists as I am in a clinical trail - but I have to say that everyone there has been top notch.
Keep perservering - and my hopes and prayers are with you and your daughter.