Danae,

There is always hope dear, if we don't have hope we have nothing really. Your brother has been through a lot there is no question there...have others been dealt similar hands? Yes. With tongue cancers, it seems a trend to be very hard to knock out, especially if the kitchen sink weren't thrown at it from the start (ie chemo/rads/surgery). Even then there's no guarantee.

What I would say is that there still is a life even if he can never eat or drink again. Charm2017, a member of these boards is in a similar position, several recurrances and can no longer eat or drink...still takes his wife on vacations and dates etc..and even though I don't believe he's the golfing type, he could still get out on the course and throw golf clubs at people

So Danae, there is hope, I would have your brother sign onto these forums and get support from those that can relate to him. I draw strength daily from the wisdom and experiences from members like Charm and others. We may not know if this cancer will end up taking us or not, but we can hope for more precious moments in life. I recommend him reading Viktor Frankle's book, Mans Search for Meaning...it help put life in perspective for me. That and listening to the warriors on these forums that have been dealt horrible hands yet still choose to play the game and fight.

Best wishes to you and your brother.

Eric