B, I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something to say to make you feel better, but there isn't. Know that everyone here who reads your post feels your pain and empathsizes deeply with and for you.... Your husband went through such a difficult and horrible time with all this, and emotionally for you it must have been a nightmare... so sorry for all you have had to bear.

Ginny M. SCC of Left lateral tongue Dx 04/06,Surgery MDACC 05/11/06: Partial glossectomy with selective neck dissection. T1N0M0 - no radiation. Phase III clinical trial ("EPOC" trial)04/07 thru 04/08 because tests showed a 65% chance of recurrence. 10 Year Survivor!