Hello, I am writing because my precious hubby (age 52) has stage 4 SCC of the right tonsil, and I feel overwhelmed, a bit lost, and frightened. I am hoping to find support and become more educated on how to best help him as goes through this difficult time.

He had a radical (well almost radical) neck dissection and tonsillectomy on 1/8/10, and is now at home recovering. The plan is to have one more post-op appointment in 3 weeks, and then he will begin chemo and radiation.

What I struggle with most right now is second guessing our (his) decision to get the neck dissection. We talked to two different doctors; one was for it, and one against. We ended up accepting the advice of the chief of the Otolaryngology Dept. at the University of Washington. After seeing what the surgery did to his poor neck tho, I can't help but wonder if it was the right choice.