Christian
It would appear that the cancer has the upper hand in your father's case. If his treatment team has suggested hospice I think that is what you should be persuing at this point. Your father is going to need good symptom management for the time he has left and that is something hospice is very good at. They also are a great support to family as well. Strength and courage for the days ahead.

Caregiver to husband Dx. Stage 4 SCC of gingiva with 3 nodes pos. Partial mandiblectomy with bone graft from iliac crest Dec. 2006. IMRT x30, Cisplatin x3. Completed Tx. March 15, 2007. Osteonecrosis & removal of graft & plate Oct. 2007. Recurrence of SCC Dec. 2007. Deceased Jan. 17, 2008.