Have you had a family meeting with her sitting listening to what is said? Let her hear what the kids and your hubbys feeling about her there mean to them and how it has changed their lives. Maybe this will wake her up to what is going on, Why in the world is she smoking. I quit after 50 yrs and haven't touched one again. That sure in't helping her. Tell her to think of her family and her making them breath the smoke after she exhails it. DUMB.. I am on methadone and percs as well as others, but someone took my identity and cleaned me out, but I am living. Can't afford meds right now. I am past 70 and can enjoy life, so can she.

Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here