Welcome. You have come to the right place to find an understanding audience to vent to. Can you tell us your mothers present care needs and what problems you are having with her care. I am sure you will have many suggestions to help you cope from members of this board who have travelled the road you now find yourself on.

Caregiver to husband Dx. Stage 4 SCC of gingiva with 3 nodes pos. Partial mandiblectomy with bone graft from iliac crest Dec. 2006. IMRT x30, Cisplatin x3. Completed Tx. March 15, 2007. Osteonecrosis & removal of graft & plate Oct. 2007. Recurrence of SCC Dec. 2007. Deceased Jan. 17, 2008.