I am not giving advise here but only telling my situation in case it will help you .
I had some of my tongue removed; positive nodes taken out of the neck and then chemoradiation; which ended 07/09/09.

I had a stomach tube put in because it was too painful to eat and the chemorads made ensure taste horrible. Its about 0.5 cm diameter. After treatment at first I could not even swallow my spit. Then I could sip small amounts of clear liquid. I saw a speech therapist who gave me tongue exercises. My tongue is partly sidways but not totally sideways. After no improvement in swallowing in a month the therapist did a barium swallow study and concluded that my upper esophageal sphincter was not opening: this is pulled open by the adams apple when one swallows. She gave me exercises for this and told me to try swallowing soft moist foods and cream soups. Her suggestion was based on the fact that nothing was going down my airway when I swallowed during the study. Its been about a month of this and no great progress yet.

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scc tongue, 2 pos nodes, surgeries 12/08, 5/09, chemorads 6/09