Thanks for the suggestions. I will talk with him about the selzer water and see if we can get that going. I just don't understand where all this muscus somes from. I have allergies and get a lot myself but it's nothing like what he is experiencing. I am glad to know that it is normal for the chocking feeling, that really scared me when it happened. I know that it scared him as well.
I don't think that he realizes that he is not going to get better in a short time. I think that he expects more out of himself than he can. He did take a couple of showers but right now he can't even do that. I am back to bathing him on the couch. That is his new bed we don't even go upstairs at night to bed. He sleeps in his chair I sleep on the floor. We were talking tonight he said he never thought that would happen to him, that I would have to take care of him. That I would be the one working, since he lost his job at christmas, it's a funny world out there. Good thing I am learning to live in today. Or at least trying. I know that I live my life in recovery that way but sometimes it's hard to apply it to other areas of my life.
Pat